Thank you U.S. Supreme Court!

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Last week the U.S. Supreme Court made a ruling. Same sex marriage is now legal in all 50 United States! Now, if you have read my stuff before, you know that I am married to an incredible man. Had I not met this incredible man I am married to, I would now be married to a woman (now that it is legal in my state). I have a beautiful friend. She and I have known each other for about 16 years and I love her to pieces.

Same sex marriage does not effect me directly because I am already married. Many things could be different in my life if this decision had been made a few years ago. I am glad things are the way they are. I am very happy in my life. If marriage equality had moved faster, I would not be where I am.

This ruling does effect me indirectly. So many of my loved ones are LGBT. Several lovely ladies I know have gone to neighboring states to marry their wives. Many of my family members are LGBT. I can't wait to attend their weddings!

I saw pictures in papers and news feeds of elderly men getting married after decades together. It is so amazing that two people, who were not legally recognized as a couple, can love each other so deeply and stay together for half a century! That is an accomplishment for any couple. I am THRILLED that my friends and family members are now free to marry whomever they choose. I am elated that people are now free to find happiness in marriage like I have found and it doesn't matter if the person they love is a man or a woman.

For all of you that don't support marriage equality: you are going to miss some spectacular weddings! Side note, please don't come at me with this stuff about it being wrong or marriage is one man and one woman. People don't realize, as the words are pouring from their mouths or fingertips, that I am not the right person to say these things to. Both of my marriages were to men and I have many children. That does not mean I am straight! My girlfriends weren't always public relationships because they weren't out or there were other circumstances that made it a lot easier not to shout it out. My relationships with women have always been shorter as well. Either way, people assume things. Even friends and family aren't always aware of all the sides of me and say things unknowingly.

It all boils down to this: I am elated about marriage equality, I am excited for the possibility of upcoming weddings, and I am not a good person to talk to about how it is wrong for people of the same sex to marry. No matter what side of the issue you stand on, history was made in this country last week. Some will be happy, others will not. I am on the happy side.

Thanks for reading!!

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